merry christmas.

heart breaker.

In a recent interview for thefabric katie boland is asked "what is the worst thing that has happened to you that most inspired you?" her answer genuinely brought me to tears on a level I can relate far too well. I always wonder if I find someone to keep me at home more, will I lose this fascination for all things love?

she answers "heartbreak. everything... man, I have so much in my life because of being heart broken. I owe pretty much how my life looks right now to having my heart broken. I took one of my old boyfriends out for lunch recently and thanked him so much for everything because without him I never would about started writing, I feel like I have a deeper understanding about myself and the world and a bunch of other bs about becoming a better artist... when you are heart broken especially for the first time, you think that nothing will ever make you feel better and so to know that you can get through that it was such a learning experience for me. and makes me feel really optimistic about the future. so thank you men"

watch the beautiful video on thefabric and read more of katie's wisdomosity here.
photo credit: arden wray

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after monday and tuesday even the calender says wtf.

ghetto family.

I MISS THIS... it's different than a 'miss' you feel for someone you don't see often or an old boyfriend. there are books and love blogs to get you through break ups. you can skype for more realistic visits with loved ones who are far. but what I am talking about is missing your flat mate(s) or as my university commonly called it 'house mates'. the family you create in your home away from home for four years of your life. waking up every day together, going through heart breaks, psychotic exams and amazing parties. why is there no therapy for this break up? It was definitely my most fulfilling relationship. and it really blows how we took for granted all living mere kegs distances apart. enough with the cloning scientists... I need more focus on tele-transportation.
I miss... sitting on roofs. bonfires. stupid costumes. cheap beer. bad music. and you. 

your status updates bore me, but I'll keep you around in case you are the next gates or zuckerberg.

post grad and the time to build and expand your personal and professional network has never been so detrimental. so why is it that all I want to do is purge my contacts? one of my friends insists that every contact is a potential successor in your future, and another has a strict two hundred cap on her facebook friends- so where do you draw the line? Should you add everyone and accept each request on every social media platform? Does a 'de-friending' mean a burnt bridge? of course social media guru sidney eve matrix has already covered this on cyberpop. sidney relates and explains... "For me, the mass unfriending phenomenon is a teachable moment, which is why I’ve designed a course at Queen’s University starting in January, for fourth year students who are just about to graduate, on building a strong digital platform and persona." I am a year behind on this fantastic course, but I'll be sure to keep up with the slides and share. In the mean time read the brilliant article, platforms constructed and dismantled for your friending frustrations.

tweets that slayed me on this subject...
     People need to stop combining their tweets with facebook... its bad enough your   tweets suck. Now I gotta see them on my mini-feed. @ZAKLONGO 
     Everyday someone with 20 friends, and 1 profile picture, adds me to Facebook. @dylansHotFire

get that money.

When Honey Magazine asked rapper Nicki Minaj if she was dating anyone, she replied, “Yes. -- Benjamin Franklin.” In fact, she had a little advice for all her fans, “To all my Barbies out there, you date George Washington and Benjamin Franklin and Abraham Lincoln. You’ll be better off in life. Get that money.”

smart phone etiquette.

an extremely popular topic of debate is the use of smart phones over meals. there is nothing worse than wanting to have an important conversation with someone who is busy updating their twitter status. an easy solution is agree at the beginning of the meal (with a friend) the degree of casualness it will be, a phone glancing meal or a ringer off one. In general, any kind of first impression (date) or meal with those of older generations (who are not used to being attached to these devices) it is better to check your messages on a bathroom break. a great issue brought up in the ny times is should google be allowed at dinner?  "What if a few clicks of the smartphone can answer a question, solve a dispute or elucidate that thoughtful point you were making? What if that PDA is not being used to escape a conversation but to enhance it?" interesting.

inside thoughts.

birds, bees, bikinis.

I am so over this canadian winter. take me back to the sunshine. and do not tell me that it is not canadian of me. snow can stay on the mountains, ice can stay on rinks and I will happily sport my canada goose and mangled uggs in either of those locations with canadian pride. it's not like our forefathers woke up in this weather and went "SNOW again! oh wow lovely I can not wait to be FREEZING all day and lose a finger to frost bite".

with love the grinch.

easy peasy lemon squeezy.

they make it look so easy.
connected with another human being.
it's like no one told them it's the hardest thing in the world.
-dexter.

one new message butterflies.

I know we are at that do everything see everyone stage in our lives. maybe not now, maybe not for a while... but things are going to work out for us. It makes too much sense for it not to. one day we'll be on a beach tangled in each other watching the sun rise. until then, I'll settle for text messages and the magic in my belly.

2010 the year of the transsexual.

this ny times article bold crossings of the gender line, calls 2010 the year, of the transsexual. mentioning headlines and celebrities that have flirted with the other side.
pictured above, transsexual model lea t.

seasons greetings.

taylor is twenty one...

yet has all the wisdom of the world.

I miss your tanned skin, your sweet smile, so good to me, so right
And how you held me in your arms that September night
The first time you ever saw me cry

Maybe this is wishful thinking,
Probably mindless dreaming,
If we loved again I swear I'd love you right...

mondays blow, but...

thinking thin.

winter time tends to pack on the extra pounds. are you far too tempted by those winter comfort foods and christmas treats? this article explains how just visualizing yourself eating something can trick your brain into thinking you have ate it.
thank you gala.

the paris paradox.

It only takes a girl a few seconds to realize what someone else may want from her sexually. It often takes her much longer to figure out what she really wants, to discern the pleasure she gets from bringing pleasure to another from the pleasure she wants for herself. And once she’s figured that out, it’s vital to work to create a culture where she can articulate that want without shame. That’s part and parcel of what it means to stand up for sexuality — and stand against sexualization.- hugo schwyzer.
thank you gala.

the third eye.

an nyu professor has attached a surveillance camera to the back of his head. he will record everything, twenty four seven. the only time there will be a lens cap is on campus to protect the privacy of his students. wafaa bilal is no stranger to the eccentric in his past art installations, this work is specifically to comment on the “inaccessibility of time and the inability to capture memory and experience.”

thank you gala

bi curious?

an exploring article:  from zeus to mischa barton, a bisexual timeline. everyone from natalie wood to bowie is touched on (no pun intended). brilliant.
thank you gala. 

seriously taken.

seriously consider that seriousness is found within.
serious people should be taken seriously while frivolous people should not.
from pete shaw in response to taken seriously.

tgif.

back to the basics. mix drinks & mka. it's four o'clock on a saturday and I am yet to get out of bed. so yeah... you could say I had a decent friday.

dwtp.

If I were you you, I'd hate her too.
happy birthday dylan fitzpatrick.

young and restless.

with love, the grinch.

in spirit of the holidays here is a little article on why buying christmas presents is bad.

health health health darling.

thinking healthy. for awhile at least... more greens, less red meat, more vitamins, less salty goodness, getting high working out and getting drunk on love. less make up, more baths. your body is a temple but so is your soul. no matter how fit you look, how shinny your hair is and how pouty your lips are... in the end it is your happiness that will shine through from the inside out.

mint.

have all the fun.

christmas is creeping.

I'm the grinch only way lazier. But my dog still has fake antlers.

taken seriously.

penny lane said never take it seriously. she said this because she knew what happened when you actually take it seriously.
I tend to hear a lot from guys I really fall for I'm not looking for anything serious. 
so maybe I am the one not to be taken seriously.
penny lane wasn't as smart as she pretended either.

morning texts.

a new study on canadian relationships found 75% of us are getting good night kisses and good morning hellos via some form of social media. kiss kiss.
source: 24hrs

subway etiquette.

this was a long time coming. I firmly believe in not using a blog as a bitchfest but public transportation has become such an often and awful part of my daily existence I feel the need to make a few comments...

1.  do not eat on the subway. little snacks sure. I can’t eat while watching intervention/hoarders/dexter etc. and I consider the subway to be filled with real life characters of those programs.

2.  I will always give up my seat for seniors. But dear women- approximately late forties, early fifties ish just be happy you don’t look like a senior. Do not look at me with those judging eyes and think 'oh must be nice not to have grey roots,  no bags under your eyes and a tight little body'. I work just as hard as you and it is not my fault you're stuck with the walking dead twenty years later.

3. It is okay to laugh at a good nut, I’m not talking about some unfortunate case that suffers or has clearly been drinking mouth wash. But some one who puts on a good show, have a good chuckle. Recognize them as human, they are performing whatever song or prophecy for a reaction, and who couldn’t use a smile on the subway. 

4.  Guys picking up girls on the subway, don’t. That’s it, just don’t. The only thing we are thinking about on the subway is why the @#$! isn’t my boyfriend driving me, or I really need a dude with a car.

5. To the woman that hissed at me last week and moved to the opposite side of the car. WHAT!?  I was braiding my hair… gawd.

...more to come I am sure, would love your own comments and additions.

make it worth it.

3DD

teenage dreams really do come true. a new book that is dedicated to BOOBS and it is in 3-D. money.

the concept: The temptation was to write a long piece justifying our creation of 3DD. We could have thrown in some academic analysis on the prominent role of the nude in the history of art and elaborate on the ways that 3DD advances that canon. We might have pointed out that the beautiful images of natural breasts in all shapes and sizes are a wonderful celebration of real women in all their glory. Or we could have reveled in the universal truth that looking and talking about boobs is just a lot of fun.

But that would be to complicate something that can be said in four words.

Boobs in 3-D

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jam.

weekending.

we don't sleep when the sun comes down, we don't waste no precious time.

turkey americano.

boom bam baby.

twitter: talking at each other?

I love twitter, I really do, but there is a side of twitter that is less focused on sharing, supporting and innovating and feels more like an annoying nightclub promoter. I had friend tweet this week "twitter seems slightly narcissistic do people really care what car i just test drove?" @jonweiman1. I think there needs to be an appropriate amount of personal antidotes, self promotion and supporting others for twitter to stay relevant and it's use optimal. Jeff Sweat puts it perfectly in Is Twitter Social? "Most of the activity I see on Twitter is really broadcasting. With the exception of a few dozen of our followers, we're not talking with each other. We're all talking at each other." Retweet, follow back and reply and keep twitter beautiful.

wednesday.

wednesday is my favorite day of the week. it is the halfway point, it only gets better from this day. in high school we used to ride our bikes to queen west to drink cheap beers. in university it was classic rock night at our favorite bar. now, I drink wine and watch modern family and cougar town (yeah, my weekly highlights got a little lamer..) but whatever, I love wednesdays!

shots at home.

I could not be more excited for this spread in Self Service magazine's December 2010 issue! The shots via fabsugar are so vintage esque and raw, it feels like I am flipping through an old seventies family photo album. c a n not w a i t. kate moss won't stop.

I will eat you alive.

...and I don't think you care.

yeah come over.

I may not find christmas to be he most appealing of holidays but this NEVER GETS OLD.

not meant but, supposed to be.