Monday, April 2, 2012

why I can't be your friend.

empathy. the ability to empathize is everything. I am learning that if I can not empathize with you I can not relate to you. relations are friendships [relationships] and with out empathy, there is nothing.

a tan: the ultimate accessory.

A tan hits the sweet spot between conspicuous and inconspicuous consumption.  A tan is a message, and the message is that its bearer is a child of nature who has returned to one’s filing-cabinet life bearing proof of the nature connection. The idea of tans returning us to a state of nature makes tanning less stigmatized where more tangible icons of luxury might be sneered at. I’m having trouble thinking of anything that we know full well is bad for us but that we do anyway, for vanity—rather, that we encourage the mimicking of. We might go on diets, wear high heels, quaff martinis, puff smoke rings, or any number of other things that have been glamorized that aren’t so hot for your health—but we’re actually doing those things, not pretending to do them. 
via Autumn Whitefield-Madrano and her article


the trick to being truly creative, I’ve always maintained, is to be completely unselfconscious. To resist the urge to self-censor. to not-give-a-shit what anybody thinks. that’s why children are so good at it. and why people with Volkswagens, and mortgages, Personal Equity Plans and matching Louis Vuitton luggage are not.
thank you gala