girls be girls. boys be gross.

I asked my best mate the other day after a casual dine with a suitor, "so0o what do you think?" and she said "...he's you, you guys are the exact same." I reply "I know right?!" smiling... she looks back at me and meets my eyes "...no he's a dude, it's not okay that you act alike." kinda taken back... I thought about it, and she is right. my background in women's studies always insisted there is an eternal double standard that is unfair, and I have whole heartedly agreed. but thinking more about it, maybe it's a good thing? maybe that keeps the balance of the men as men and the women as feminine. yes I realize ALL the panties in a knot if I were to share this back in one of my women's studies classes, how wrong gendering is.. .yada yada. but for the sake of promiscuity, maybe equality wasn't the best policy. chuck klosterman writes "for the past twenty-five years, culture has been obsessed with making males and females more alike, and that's fine. Maybe it's even enlightened. But what I have noticed- at least among young people- is that this convergence has most likely just prompted females to adopt the worst qualities of men. It's like girls are trying to attain equality by becoming equally shallow and selfish." He goes on to note how this has been absorbed by our generation, "The consensus is that this double standard is wrong, so -therefore- we should all have sex with as many people as possible."
act like a woman, think like a man?
source: sex, drugs, cocoa puffs

put a ring on it: or dance a ring around the pole?

the sexual cost of female success is a really interesting article about modern day women and their sexuality. what is at stake when it comes to women and success and a brief look at modern 'hook up' culture. what power do we really have? Can we use our sex appeal as power or is it just modern feminist bs to get ahead using sex? "I still think you have better odds of succeeding, especially if you're attractive, if you don't give in, if you make him work hard, get to know you, make commitments -- all that stuff that seems pretty basic. This is not about getting sex. Women can get sex whenever they want. Post it on Craigslist and you can have it within the hour. This is about getting commitments." perfectly put.
thank you gala.

the paris paradox.

It only takes a girl a few seconds to realize what someone else may want from her sexually. It often takes her much longer to figure out what she really wants, to discern the pleasure she gets from bringing pleasure to another from the pleasure she wants for herself. And once she’s figured that out, it’s vital to work to create a culture where she can articulate that want without shame. That’s part and parcel of what it means to stand up for sexuality — and stand against sexualization.- hugo schwyzer.
thank you gala.