inked.

craving more ink. craving something really badass too...

not getting in the car.

we never give thanks to those not willing to drag us into hell. by not dating you, not screwing with you, not giving you false hope. maybe those are the ones who actually care about you?

stumped.

doing me.

'doing me' is probably the most selfish thing one can do. it makes complete sense at this age to get to know yourself and push yourself to find the real you. find out what you want, who you want, and how you are going to get it. but maybe our generation doesn't have it as figured out as we think. maybe we have masked selfishness as self discovery. what if we don't like who we are as a free agent? maybe we need that other person to consider, to consult and to care for. somebody to keep you at home or get angry when you drink too much. someone to care when you dress like a floozy or eat cereal for dinner. where is the balance?

to feel like you're not in the room until he looks at you.

I bet you've had a hard time walking into a room full of people on your own, right? Yeah. I know that. I know what it is not to feel like your in the room until he looks at you or touches your hand or even makes a joke at your expense, just to let everyone know... you're with him. You're his. 

becky pie hands.

In honor of becky pie hands visiting this weekend here is a lovely video featuring her cuteypie head. she is forever an inspiration. read her blog... wives of hell daughters of earth. you'll die.

One Night Nostalgia from AJ Chavar on Vimeo.

weekend.

implicitly inspiration.

my writing hiatus has been a result of my lack of inspiration. So I've been thinking about what inspires me... reading, traveling, the beach and people. traveling and reading have both been plentiful, the beach is covered in a glacial blanket, leaving people. I have always been fascinated by those who inspire and fascinate. Whether it's that kid in your class with the eccentric notebook, the always put together fashionista or that friend that always has cool music to share. 'the interview' is another extremely raw medium that any writer craves. completely first hand information in the form of dialogue. SO what I have decided (and now that I have posted have got to follow through with...) is I will start adding to my posts "implicitly: (people who inspire)". I will construct a series of quiz like questions, short bio and a picture of people who inspire.
here is the organic part... these are people you or I know. I have to pick them or a reader has to nominate them. everyone likes reading about more tangible people and it's proven that amateur porn is searched WAY more than professional porn.. so lets keep it natural.
I can already think of so many I want to do, and I promise to be brave and message those girl crushes on facebook and those dudes I can't even talk to in real life. please help! send me questions you'd want answered and people you want nominated and give me feedback.

dudes with motorcycles.

you win.

tgif.

sorry for my hiatus. good things are coming. I promise.

my cell phone is my life... no really.

at dinner the other night I was checking my phone and my dad goes "do you know how rude that is?" and I thought and replied "No, not really". At this specific setting, eating dinner (in front of the tv mind you) with my dad- I did not feel it rude to check my messages. The eight hour work day simply does not exist to most people in the  modern work force. most meetings occur out of the work day and the key to success is communication. therefore it seems completely appropriate that my cell phone be with me at this casual dinner. 
Peter Gruber explains in the intimacy of the cell phone, "This instrument, a mobile phone, was kept close to my heart, viewed inches my eyes, and pressed next to my ear. Name something more intimate! It transmitted my aspirations, hopes and dreams. It fed back to me my wins and losses. It captured my most powerful moments"
"This isn't the end of that process. Change will come faster bringing more intimacy. All of your medical information will be on your mobile phone including monitoring your physical health. The Benjamins are going to disappear from your wallet and appear on your phone making it look increasingly like an electronic MBNA card. So it's now an instrument of success and survival - two primal pulls and pushes of our lives. Name something in your life that interests you more than your success and your survival?"


...both of these quotations are magnificent explanations for the next person that rolls their eyes at you when you check your bbm.

social media & time management.

finding it hard to maintain all of your social media? a couple great suggestions I found in the article 'how to avoid social media overload' help you do just that. the first key is to not be an early adopter of every social media. sample widely and focus narrowly. "Most executives don't need to become social media mavens -- but they do need to know what they're talking about (you don't want to be the only one in the room who doesn't know what a hashtag is)". Personally I also think it is important to use all mediums in moderation, do not repeat the same status on twitter and facebook etc. happy networking.